If he cannot agree to this basic rule, then all bets are off. For this encounter, he is only allowed to orgasm when (and if) you permit it. Think about it, from the woman’s perspective, most sexual encounters tend to shorter and less satisfying than she would like. This fantasy is about giving you all the sexual power, so your pleasure must come first. If you want to dominate your man in the bedroom, sexual control is the most basic requirement.